Attachment theory provides the most reliable and research-based approach to working with couples and individuals’ relational issues. It can help to identify their needs for having a clear sense of self and associated boundaries, and need for security, connection, intimacy and love. It enables a deeper appreciation of how close relationships are dynamically and implicitly shaped both by childhood and adult significant relationships. The childhood attachment relational patterns, just like reading or riding the bike, are stored as procedural memories and implicitly (i.e outside of awareness) activated throughout our lives.
Couples Therapy
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As a Couples Psychotherapist I will aim to support you as a couple, to develop awareness of your attachment systems which you both bring to your relationship. Together we will explore, and seek to understand the triggers and emotional patterns, beliefs, and the interplayed dynamic that cause difficulties in your relationship.
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Challenges such as power dynamics, loss of trust, secrecy, infidelity, trauma, shame, insecurity, can lead to feeling stuck, misunderstood, angry, hopeless, lonely, anguished, and possibly an overall underlying sense of anxiety or even fear.
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Moving on from the place where it feels like nothing works will involve unlocking the intimate meaning, fears and needs behind yours and your partner’s difficult interactions and reactions.
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You will both discover and experience a more effective communication style , approach a more meaningful emotional connection and intimacy , and find your own resolutions as a couple.